“The worst way for friendship to end is for literally nothing to go wrong. You just stopped talking. They stopped messaging you to see how you’re doing and you get sick of being the first one to initiate the conversation so you just let the friendship go and wonder how that person is doing and never hear from them again.” – theyellowbrickroad (Tumblr)
When it comes to throwbacks, one of the difficult-to-look-back throwbacks is that last and old conversation you had with someone you used to talk for a very long time (or it seems to be). Isn’t it weird how people can talk or message each other for months or maybe even years straight and then one day, either one of them just gets tired of the constant occurrence? They just stop talking; they just stop messaging each other without heartfelt goodbyes. It is so odd that you can know someone’s everything then out of nowhere both of you just drift apart for no obvious reason.
OBVIOUS reason. Which means there’s still a reason but just not as decipherable or apparent.
Well, sorry if I confuse you.
But I don’t believe that there’s literally NOTHING that goes wrong when a friendship ends. There has to be a reason. There has to be a repressed and hidden reason in the back of your oblivious mind why it ended. You just don’t stop talking like that.
It may be being swept off by the lack of time because of school, work, or maybe even hobbies. But I think the most tragic part is when one of you just stops caring.
I don’t know about you but acknowledging the fact that majority of the people communicate by using the internet or technology, this inevitable tragedy of friendships would most likely happen to people who just communicate using their blinding phones or laptops in my opinion. Because you don’t usually see or talk to that person in your actual and daily life. It’s not like you can approach them any day in your school’s hallways and ask them why they aren’t they replying or talking to you anymore. What’s even worse is that most people you are close with when you talk to them in your not-so-actual life aka phones/internet, aren’t always the same when you talk to them in person.
So let’s say Friend #1 was eating Nerd candies and by the name of the said product, it reminded her of her drifting-away friend that she haven’t talked for nearly a week now. The fact that their friendship was slipping away without human control came crashing down on her. So after pathetically hesitating and mentally debating herself to death, she messages her friend in attempt on saving their losing friendship:
Friend 1: Hey, *insert friend 2’s name here* how have you been????
She waited.
And waited.
And waited for her friend’s reply. The first 2 minutes of agonizing silence made her ask herself “DOES SHE HATE ME WHY ISN’T SHE REPLYING”
Finally, after miraculously long and agonizing 3 minutes of waiting, Friend 2 replied with the most heartfelt response ever recorded in human History:
Friend 2: gud, wby?Friend 1 was disappointed in a way she can’t decipher why. But she replied back anyway- in exchange to her best friend’s well phrased “gud, wby?”:
Friend 1: I'm good as well! Just a bit tired from doing projects. I wish I pass! Profs give a lot of work so we have to have a lot of sleepovers. So, yeah. :)
Friend 2: ahhhhhh ok
Friend 1: Haha yeah
Seen at 2:10pm
Seen at 2:10pm
Seen at 2:10pm
Double kill. Okay zoned and Seen zoned.
This is a usual occurrence happens every time she checks up on her friend.
So when Friend 1 finally gets sick of the usual occurrence, which is composed of her first initiating the conversation and her friend- Friend 2 throwing back grammatically incorrect replies that apparently have no slight hint of affection, she just let the friendship go and finally decided to go with her own life, secretly wondering how her friend is doing and never hear from her again.
You see the reason here?
Someone gets tired. Someone stops caring. Someone stops trying. Then voila! Friendship is thrown into the Strangership.
As I go on with my life studying, with a schedule full as a corpulent man’s stomach, I couldn’t deny the fact that some people who I consider as friends in high school started to drift away. Daily conversations become old that they were thrown in the nostalgic soon-to-be-throwback zone, where you’d find yourself visiting once in a while.
But wait- it is just an inevitable tragedy about friendship.
“FRIENDSHIPS ARE NOT DETERMINED BY HOW MUCH TIME YOU DO OR DO NOT SPEND WITH THAT PERSON.” As catrianasommers of Tumblr said.
There are those friends who you didn’t talk for like forever but when you get to talk to them again- for the first time in a very long time, it’s like time is just figment of one’s imagination; it seems like you just talked yesterday and 12 months didn’t pass by.
